Do people like to be around you? Do people like you? If not that’s not a problem. The biggest misconception is a likeable person is likeable from birth. They are born with all that charisma and people like to be around them. It’s not true, you can build charisma and be likeable. It’s not a by-birth genetic thing.
Likeability is in personality and personality is buildable. There are some traits of a likeable person, if you build those traits in your personality, you will be very likeable and people will like to be around you.
Below I listed the 5 most important and simplest traits to be likeable. if you make these into your habit, they soon will be in your personality and you will be a likeable person.
1. Be Genuinely Interested in Others
Let’s study the technique of the greatest winner of friends of all time. let’s see how he makes people like him. Who should be him? A dog. If you see a pet dog, stop by and give it a pat. It almost jumps out of his skin to show how much he likes you.
Why do people keep dogs? It doesn’t lay eggs, give milk or sing songs for you. It just gives love. There are not any hidden motives behind his affection, he doesn’t want a favor or he doesn’t want to marry you. That’s why people love dogs.
If you want others to like you if want to make genuine friendships without ulterior motives, remember this principle, become genuinely interested in other people.
Tit for tat. You receive what you give if you want other people to like you and become interested in you, like them and become interested in them. Simple as that.
Research shows that most people decide whether or not they like someone in the first seven seconds. A professor at Harvard Business School, Amy Cuddy, conducted a study on first impressions. Facial expressions largely influence our first impressions.
A smile is a signal of friendliness and makes you more likeable. Next time when you meet someone remember to smile because it costs nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive smiles without empowering those who give. It happens in a flash and its memories sometimes last forever. Smiling creates happiness in the home, fosters goodwill in business, and is the countersign to a friend.
Then why not? it’s not hard. Just remember this principle to make others like you whenever you meet someone, smile.
3. Remember Names
Most people never remember names because they don’t take the time and energy necessary to concentrate and repeat to fix names indelibly in their minds. They make excuses for themselves that they are too busy.
Let me tell you, people are so proud of their names that they strive to perpetuate them. “Remember that a person’s name is to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language,” said Dale Carnegie.
Remembering someone’s name is very crucial to be a likeable person. All humans crave a feeling to be important. The name sets the individual apart and becomes unique. It provides a good amount of feeling of importance.
When we approach the person with the name of the individual. From waiter to senior executive name will do its magic as we deal with others. Doing this act will make you important to them and they will like you more. It also has the opposite effect when they forget people’s names.
4. Be a Good Listener
The easiest way to become a good conversationalist is to encourage others to talk. Every communication master in this world will tell you that active listening is fundamental to great interactions.
People love this feeling of being listened to. Again, it fills their desire or need of being important. Remember that the people you are talking to are 100 times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s headache is more important to him than a famine in any country killing millions of people 😂.
A person’s toothache is more important to him than whatever the hell is happening in your life. Next time you talk to someone remember this, If you talk only about yourself, they will start to dislike you. If you will listen to them they will feel important and will start to like you. Speak less and listen more, attentively.
5. Talk in the Terms of others’ Interest
The above point and this are kind of connected. It’s not hard to get what other people’s interests are when they talk to you, it isn’t hard to understand what they want. If you will talk and just talk about what you want or what your interests are, people are going to dislike you and avoid you.
The most endearing thing to anyone is his own interests. If someone talks to them in terms of their interests, they will like to talk to them and like them just in person.
If you just take interest in what their interest is, that’s a win. That’s how you become a good conversationalist. Example: If you see someone who is a botanist and is talking to you, talk and ask interesting questions about plants and he will talk all day about his interesting experiences. The most boring-sounding profession can be very interesting the moment you take an interest in what others tell you about it. Results will be a fun conversation, the other will like you, you will be easy to talk to and you will get importance from others and they will like you.
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