No one in the world likes to give up on his dreams. People set goals and make plans to achieve objectives—still, fail to reach them and end up quitting. But why? Today we will talk about the habits that turn even very ambitious and determined people into failures. So you know how not to be a failure.
“We are what we repeatedly do; excellence then is not an act, but a habit.”
Having habits of a successful person makes you successful but having habits of a failure also makes you a failure. If you don’t want to be among failures, avoid the habits of failure.
I compiled a list of 3 habits that a failure has and that you should avoid. I had these habits, and you can, too, so read attentively and learn how to deal with them.
Habits that make you a Failure.
A little on habits. Habits are pretty much choices made subconsciously. Your brain chooses something you tend to choose again and again, even when you are not aware of it. Choosing harm makes a harmful habit, and choosing good makes a good habit.
So, here are three habits you need to get rid of—to not be a failure. Do you have them? If yes, what to do? Read on attentively.
1. Choosing What’s Expedient
The expedient path is the biggest enemy of success. Having a habit of choosing expedient is a success-killer.
Choosing the expedient means selecting the fastest and easiest way to achieve something you want, instead of the necessary way with little concern for its long-term consequences.
People don’t like to work hard—here is the truth. They always seek the easiest way to achieve the same thing fast and easily without concern for the future of going on that path. It’s like having a dream of buying a supercar, taking a big loan to buy it and spending the rest of your life in debt—stupid example.
If you choose momentary satisfaction over delayed gratification, your example can be like that supercar guy. If you decide to watch Netflix to be entertained temporarily instead of working on your business—you will be miserable in the long term, the practical example.
Opposite of this Habit
Successful people do exactly the opposite of choosing expedient. They have the habit of choosing a path which is hard, unsatisfying, risky and uncomfortable in the short term and very rewarding in the long term instead of an expedient approach. They choose the NECESSARY.
What should you do?
Suppose you found yourself choosing the expedient most of the time. From now force yourself to choose what is necessary over what is easy and harmful in the long term. Choose sex over porn, choose books over Tiktok, choose work over Netflix, choose to exercise instead of supplements, and choose to go out and meet people over social media.
If you develop this habit of choosing the necessary instead of the expedient path, you will be successful in the long term. You will see yourself way ahead of people who chose expedient. Otherwise, I am afraid you will fail.
You may like to read: Expediency Factor – Why most of us Never get Anywhere.
2. Changing Path and Quitting
– “What you made out of the website you started.”
– “Why? the idea looked good.”
– “I am doing something else now.”
That’s my conversation with my friend. I was too quick to move on to other things, getting low on patience. Never did one thing consistently for months, which was one of the main reasons I was a failure.
I wouldn’t consider you a failure until you quit. If you give something a month and move on to another thing because the other thing is appealing or the thing you are doing is boring or hard, I will consider you a failure. A person who quits the gym after one month of seeing “no results” is a failure and will be the same after a year. A person who joined with him and never quit will look sexy after a year. The choice is yours, who you want to be.
Imagine yourself as a well-digger. You have to dig a well for water. You dig a little bit at one place but see no water after digging 6 feet. “There is no water here,” you say and move on to another place and again dig 6 feet, “no water!” It happens and happens. Even if you do it forever, you will never find the water and will be considered a failure. You have to dig while seeing no results for hours, days or weeks with the same intensity to get water out of the well.
Here is what helped me:
No Excuses by Brian Tracy is one of the most life-changing books I have read. This book shows the way to self-discipline. This book teaches you to discipline yourself to stick to one thing and work equally hard every day even though it doesn’t show results for years. This discomfort is temporary, bringing long-term gratification.
What should you do?
It’s clear to this point what you should do. Here are some points that will help you to get rid of or avoid this habit of quitting.
- Choose one goal and make plans to achieve that goal.
- Stick to a plan UNTIL it fails.
- Be patient for the results—good results only lie in the long term.
- Don’t focus on results; focus on consistency.
- Don’t change your path again and again—stick to one thing.
- Trust the process—if others did it the same way, you will too.
- Losing hope is normal—surround yourself with successful people; it will help.
I don’t mean to say that you should blindly do something impossible. Do your research; if people have achieved success the way you are going to, you CAN too.
3. Blaming and Complaining
Blaming someone or something for anything going wrong in your life is a face of not taking responsibility for things happening in your life. If you start blaming the gun for bad aim, you are putting your responsibility on the gun to be better.
A person who does not take responsibility thinks that someone else should take that responsibility and solve his problem. It results in him failing because no one in the world is generous enough to do that.
Just notice around yourself people who blame the government for their poor financial situations stay poor. They think it’s the government’s responsibility to improve it, but it is theirs. On the other hand, people who take 100% responsibility for anything happening in their life make the best out of any situation and become successful.
If you have this habit of blaming and complaining every time you make a mistake, mess up, fail, and something goes wrong, you will stunt your growth resulting in failure. Blaming someone is like choosing the expedient path; it takes off your responsibility and gives temporary comfort, and in the long term, you see failure.
How not be a Failure
One of the most important habits of a successful person is taking responsibility for whatever is happening in his life. Here are some points you should keep in mind and act upon to not end up like failure.
- Don’t blame, don’t complain.
- It can be others’ fault, but the responsibility is still yours to improve it because no one else will.
- Take responsibility for your habits, actions, situations, problems, mistakes and anything happening.
Taking responsibility rather than blaming will put you in control of your life, and you will be able to harvest success.
You may like to read: Why We Put the Blame On Others – and the Real Cost We Pay.
To Wrap it up, here is a little summary of what has been said. The 3 habits you must avoid to be successful are:
- The habit of Choosing the Expedient Path; Expedient path may look rewarding in the short term but will ruin the future—don’t fall for this habit.
- The habit of Changing Path to Soon; You don’t see results because they lie in future, be patient and stay striving. Trust the process.
- The habit of Blaming; Take responsibility for everything happening in your life and stay in control. Blaming other take control of your life away.
What else should be included in habits of failure? Give suggestions in the comments.