Did you know it takes a tenth of a second to make the first impression? It doesn’t matter how many Karens on the internet say that judging someone by looks isn’t fair, but it’s human nature and can’t be changed. It takes 33-100 milliseconds for someone to judge your character showed this research. And it takes 7 seconds for people to decide whether they like you or not.
You can’t change this judging nature of humans, but you can change how others judge you. 7 seconds is it to make a great or poor impression. It is always the best idea to be in a certain way to make a good and powerful impression.
Here are 5 tips, so you don’t mess these 7 seconds up!
5 Tips to Make a Good First Impression
Coming out to be confident in your first meeting goes a long way to establishing an energetic, credible and powerful presence. This makes a great impression that lasts longer than you think, as shown in this 2010 study.
To make a great impression, you will do a few little things to exhibit your confidence and personality, ensuring you don’t come out unconfident. Here are 5 things that will help you to make a killer first impression whether you are going to a business meeting or a date.
1. Present Yourself Well
“Don’t judge a book by its cover,” said George Eliot. No one took George seriously. People judge by the cover. “People are affected by your appearance, whether or not they realize it, and whether or not they think appearance is important.” found the National Research Council of Canada.
You will be judged by appearance, so the first and most sensible thing is to shape your judgment by appearing good. Imagine yourself as a book in the bookstore. A book with a killer cover gets read, and a book with an unimpressive cover doesn’t make a good impression, and you never read it, even if it is a killer book inside. Make your appearance great for a great impression.
Dress well; choosing what you wear for an occasion is a good way to communicate your personality. It doesn’t matter your age or gender; you will make a good impression if you are dressed well.
There is a difference between the personality of a person who wears a suit at a business event and a person who wears shorts. Who will make a better impression on you? Adjust the formality of your clothing according to the event.
Have good hygiene—trimmed nails, kept hair and beard, and good breath are essential for a good impression.
The second thing that gets noticed is your facial expressions. Facial expressions play an important role in shaping the impression you make with your appearance.
It won’t be delightful to talk to a person who has a blank look on his face. I used to be socially awkward, and the thing that comforted me most was the smiling of the person I was meeting. It always relieved me and made me want to talk.
When you genuinely smile to meet someone, you appear trustworthy and sincere. This will make the other person trust you and like you easily, which is a great impression.
There is no drawback to smiling—it takes 2 muscles to smile for a few seconds, which will make an impression for a long time. You will be instantly more likeable, friendly, trustworthy and sincere on your first impression. There is no question of not smiling.
Related: Stop doing these 3 Things If You want to be Liked.
3. Eye Contact
Your eye movement is judged during the conversation. It’s not conscious, but humans judge little things. You don’t notice, but you are always judging people.
If you are looking around in the room while talking to someone, it will appear like you are uninterested, and the conversation will go down, with a bad impression. Looking the person up and down makes you judgmental and can make others uncomfortable. Staring at the ground makes you feel unsure and unconfident, which will kill your impression.
Hold strong eye contact before talking, and as you start the conversation, regular eye contact makes you look confident. Regular eye contact doesn’t mean staring down the person—no need to be aggressive. Hold eye contact 60% of the time.
Find a good balance with eye contact; it will make you look confident in your first impression, which is a big yes.
4. Body Language
After making strong eye contact and smiling, your body language is the next thing that communicates much about you. There are two types of communication verbal and non-verbal. Humans share with 70% nonverbal and 30% verbal during a conversation. You can easily give a wrong message through your non-verbal body language, which can mess up your first impression.
You must ensure your body language show your confidence.
Many people do things that make them come out to be unconfident; here are some of the DOs and DON’Ts of body language that you should take care of.
- Sit and stand straight and keep your head up; it translates your confidence.
- Be at comfort, don’t be so forcefully straight like they are going to eat you if you bend. Sitting or standing comfortably will make others comfortable too, or you can pressure things up. Just avoid bad posture.
- Don’t cross your arms or legs in front of you. Closing like this gives a message that you are uncomfortable, insecure or unconfident.
- Don’t fidget; that’s a clear sign of nervousness.
- Use your hands, hold them up and do expressions while talking as you NORMALLY do. Just be at ease; you will come out to be confident.
5. Communicate Well Verbally
Your verbal communication skills matter. After a good non-verbal impression, this part can make or break it. Many people make a good impression non-verbally, but they mess everything up as they start a conversation. Make sure you don’t end up like that.
When you start to talk, your goal should be to get to know the other person better. How do you begin to learn about a person? By listening.
Be aware that the other person who chooses to talk to you considers you worthy of his time; he should be the most Important person to you during the conversation. He should get that feeling of being important while talking to you(The top secret of winning friends.) How can you give that feeling of importance?
Here are some things to care about while talking so you can nail your first impression.
- Speak less, listen more: Listen to them when they speak, take interest and ask questions with curiosity; remember, your goal is to know them the best. If you talk more about yourself, the other will feel unimportant. It doesn’t mean not talking about yourself at all. Just listen more.
- Talk about others’ interests: Discover what is interesting to others and talk about that. They will love to talk to you.
- Your voice tone should be calm: like you are talking to a homie. Your changed voice pitch tells about you. Job interviewers may get the impression that a candidate is insecure or unsure of themselves if they speak with an upward inflexion, according to the Corporate Finance Institute.
Doing these things will make you more likeable, easy to talk to, and a good conversationalist. You will win friends and obviously will make a good first impression.
Related: How to Develop Effective Communication Skills? 4 Areas to Improve.
To conclude, don’t stress out. These are some tips to make a good impression, not rules and principles to be followed, or you are dead. Chill, relax, be aware of these tips, and don’t do the opposite—you will nail it.
Here is a quick summary of all you learned.
- Present yourself well—Dress well, have good hygiene and smell good.
- Smile when you see them.
- Make strong eye contact 60% of the time.
- Have confident body language—take your space, use hand expressions and don’t cross your limbs.
- Have good verbal communication—your mission is to know others better while talking.
That was the improvement dose for today. If you think something else should be included here, do an addiction in the comment section.